Sunday, 29 January 2012

One minute, just let me put on my face...

Make- Up means something to almost all females. Some cannot leave the house without it, others save it for special occasions, most use it to cover up lack of sleep and the mother of all hangovers. One thing is for sure no one can deny the transformation that it can give us. It helps hide our least favourite parts and highlight our best. It's a girl's best friends (most of the time) and I'm pretty sure if guyliner and all other male make-up products were widely accepted the majority of men would jump on board and use it just as much too, if not more.


Bye bye hangover!


Many misconceptions have been formed by many judgmental individuals about females who wear make up on a regular basis. Murmurs of low self-esteem and references to them not being comfortable in their own skin have been made time and time again. However, couldn't that be said about anything? Why not judge someone's self esteem and confidence by the way one dresses; whether they have tattoos or piercings; if they use hair dye or their style haircut as well?  Really though these are all ways that we define ourselves, how we express who we are to the outside world and make that first impression we want to make.
It seems we cannot win because even by not doing these things we are saying something. Like it or not we are making a statement by projecting this image to the world. Women with no make-up are showing that they are naturally fresh faced and actually don't need it, maybe screaming to the world: Look at my really great genes (or maybe they bought a new pair of really great jeans and want all the focus on that, who knows!). Maybe subconsciously some want to portray to everyone that they are too busy (Exam face anyone?) or too serious to have time to put on makeup.

Serious case of exam face!


In first and second year of college we learnt about the human race's quest to achieve their aspirational self. We were taught that they try to bridge the gap between their actual self and their aspirational self through their hobbies, maybe they paint or play instruments; the sports they play, are you a strong rugby manly man or a graceful swimmer? The course they attend; the job they work; their career, or lack of; the place they live in or they car the drive; the people they hang out with or avoid and mock; or the charity work they do- the list is long. All of these things are seen as acceptable and standard ways that we all define ourselves by. Yet young women are criticised, mostly by the elders and sometimes their peers, for wearing make-up. They are told they look like a slapper, a clown or a Goth. That they look much nicer without that "awful stuff caked on their face" and that "people will know that they are lacking in self-confidence." Because being told that you look rubbish is going to do wonders for your self-belief.

A Girl's Best friend?
Is this not another form of self-expression, a way of finding yourself by experimenting with looks? Granted NOBODYS make up when they begin is perfect but that is how we learn. We make mistakes, we practice and 90% of the time we improve...maybe after several years. Also don't worry, the shameful photographs of the past that lurk in the darkness of our sock drawer will remind us if we are to forget!
Yup, pretty much sums it up...


Sure it is said that we have to love ourselves if we are to expect anyone to love us. I do believe that this is true. However, in my experience I find that make-up allows a lot of people to be more themself than when they go shiny barefaced. Some might call it wearing a mask, that those that do this are just hiding their true self from the world. That's fine, you're entitled to your opinion I actually find it allows me to match my inside self to my outside self and in fact I am a lot more forthright when I "have my face on" as some say. It's more about accepting yourself on the inside and then expressing this wonderful person you are on the outside. Does anyone else feel like this? Or am I just a little crazy.


I think Make-up is fantastic. It's great to be able to have a creative outlet every day. Ever since I picked up an eyeliner pencil age 11 and drew those fantastically grungy panda circles, that stayed with me until age 16 , I knew I had found a new canvas that I could take with me everywhere -how fun!(Embarrassing photos remain on Bebo...) I'm sure I'm not alone in this, great satisfaction can be had trying out or perfecting new looks or teaming up with your friends to transform your surprisingly willing male flatmate into a drag queen. (Note: Photos of said incident are available on Facebook for those interested!) Endless opportunities are to be had!





I'm of the opinion that once you are happy with yourself on the inside and have the self-confidence to be the best you that you can be then it does not matter what you look like on the outside. Okay I'm aware that this may sound a little like an "after school special" but it has been playing on my mind ever since I witnessed a mother chastise and almost sneer at her very impressionable young teenage daughter for wearing make-up saying she'll "NEVER get a man looking like that with all that crap on her face!" Ironically the mother had make-up on. So I guess in conclusion what I am saying is maybe the answer is to guide people and not put them down or failing that actually leave them to their own devices because like opinions, bodies and lives it's theirs and so it's that persons choice and only theirs.

Failing that or for some light relief, take some tips from this girl on how to trick people into thinking you're really good looking!


5 comments:

  1. Nice article. I'd love if you posted your views on the "oompah-loompah/orange peel" look. While it's unfair to say that women who wear a lot of makeup have self esteem issues, there is a difference between wearing a lot of makeup well and clobbering it on in an unsuccessful attempt to emulate celebrities like Katie Price, who themselves look a little overdone. This seems to lead to a vicious cycle. I wonder sometimes when I see these women in the street, if when they look in the mirror, do they really see a tanned, well made-up face and smokey eyes looking back at them, or can they see what we see, layers of orange sludge piled up and a huge contrast between their neck, which is white, and their orange face, giving them that "traffic cone" look. I can't help but feel that these women do have self esteem issues, and have allowed their faces to represent the distortion that is present in their minds of how a woman is "supposed to look", due to the oversaturation of sex and the so called "glamour" look in today's media. The marked difference in the practical application of their makeup and the intended outcome is so huge that it almost suggests a psychological condition. Of course, I'm giving this from a male perspective, so feel free to crucify all you other commenters!

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  2. I could not live without make-up as dramatic as that may sound! Personally, it wakes me up and also makes me look like I have woken up! The odd day I go without, I've been told I look tired, sick or sad ha!

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  3. @ Generic.Handle I guess my view on what you deem an"oompah-loompah/orange peel" look is that it all boils down to preference and taste. Everyone has variations on what they deem attractive. You only have to look at Artists throughout the ages to see that this is true: For instance, Ruben viewed the ideal woman as rounded, curvy if you will, where as a painter like Velasquez prefered a more slender girl. I believe this is still true today but society is much more divided, even within the same generations, in their views on what is the epitomy of beauty especially- especially with certain subcultures becoming more main stream and widely accepted.
    Look at those ridiculous picture wars on Facebook where the slogan will astound "When did ____ become hotter than ___" fill in what ever contrasting in style "hot" girl you wish. I do agree that women are put under too much pressure to look perfect by media but then again I think society as a whole is much too influenced on what "perfect" is.

    Take yourself for instance, when you said "The marked difference in the practical application of their makeup and the intended outcome is so huge that it almost suggests a psychological condition" on what are you basing that on, could it be on what society (or the media segment that you are influenced by) deems the correct application or intended look?

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  4. @ Mags: Agreed, I go without make-up the odd day but I've been asked way too many times am I sick and even last week someone thought I was going to faint...Both times I let them know that I am in fact just this pale!

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    1. I'm the same, I always get asked am I sick when I haven't brushed a bit of bronzer on my face. My granny's the worst for it, I spend the day convincing her that I'm not sick, I don't need to rest and/or am not dying. Great for the ol' self esteem!haha

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